I'll use this over the next month to start babbling about various things and maybe wind up learning something along the way. Who knows, maybe you will too. Possibly more than me.
Right then. Here we go: Day 01: Your current relationship
I have been dating my boyfriend for 1.25 years now, and I could wax on about how amazing he is and how this is the best thing that's ever happened to me, but the internet has enough of that kind of vapid, insubstantial romantic praise.
It's not something I really discuss with anyone other than Mike, so it feels a little odd to be typing it up.
Relationships are hard. All the stories end at "happily ever after." But it's just not that easy. You have to communicate, compromise, support each other, and above all trust. (This goes for non-romantic relationships as well.) The key is to find somebody whose strengths complement your weaknesses and vice versa. Not every day or situation is going to be easy and it's important to find somebody who will not only be there through it all, but who will pick you up and carry you when you can't walk any more.
I've always wondered how I would know when I met "The One." From watching my parents I understand what a good, healthy, lasting relationship looks like. I've come to understand that it's not about meeting The One, it's about creating The One. I believe there are many people out there with whom you are compatible, but by going through life with somebody, he or she becomes your One and Only based on the strength you gain through common experience.
Perhaps, at twenty years old with only one ex and a relationship little more than a year old, I'm not one to talk. But I've always been a hopeless romantic (and luckily in Mike I've found a kindred spirit), so maybe I've watched enough to understand. And love, I think, is way too easy to complicate, but it's something that should be kept simple, for that is when it is at its best.
The best thing about this relationship is that it's comfortable. We're used to each other and we work well together. He keeps me sane, I keep him on top of deadlines. Most of all, I miss him when he's gone. I think that's all it needs to be. I've realized that I don't really know what my future holds, but I know that I want to share it with him - and I've never felt something so simply, so strongly, so I know it must be right.
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